Holiday Elf Guidelines: The Complete List Every Parent Should Know
Every family ends up making up their own version of these rules eventually, but here's the standard list most people go by, so you're not making it up on the spot when your kid asks.
The core rules
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Don't touch the elf. The most well-known rule -- touching is said to drain its magic. (Practically: this is also just a good excuse to keep kids from moving it themselves.)
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The elf moves every night, reporting back to Santa on your child's behavior, then returning to a new spot before morning.
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The elf doesn't talk to kids directly -- it communicates through notes, not conversation.
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If it's accidentally touched, the fix is usually a written apology to Santa, or a sprinkle of cinnamon near the elf to "restore the magic."
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The elf arrives sometime between Thanksgiving and December 1st and returns to the North Pole for good on Christmas Eve.
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You make the rest up. Whether the elf can talk, whether it's scary, how mischievous it gets -- every family's version is different, and that's normal.
The only "rule" that actually matters: consistency. Once you establish your family's version, stick with it so the story holds together for your kids.
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Looking for ideas to kick things off? See our elf arrival ideas. And if your kids are asking the big question, here's our take on whether the holiday elf is real.
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